I just re-read my post from this afternoon; wow, it is bad! I wrote that before I took a nap, after the kids were going nuts.....I guess I am trying to say, PLEASE don't call CPS. But if you do, see if they have any tips for me!
Amber, thank you for your help and suggestions! I am going to try your new tally system for sure. I realized I forgot to include positive reinforcement in my disciplining list; maybe because I don't do it enough. This is something else I am going to work on! That girl (Danielle) is sensitive and does need lots of one on one time and hugs! I def. need to be better about that, and stop and take the time to do it! I am sure things will improve when I make the effort with that....any other suggestions from my "mom of the year" post?
Friday, April 15, 2011
Struggling.....anyone else?
Ahh, take a deep breath, read on only if you're willing to listen to some venting. Let me tell you, it has been a ROUGH 12 days, and yes I am counting. It all started the Monday of Spring break.....my headstrong 4 year old (who thinks she's a grown adult in charge), will NOT LISTEN. It's not only the not listening, it is the flat out refusing, arguing, debating, negotiating, tantrums and shrieking that is sending me over the edge. (And folks the whole smooth sailing after 4 years, is a bunch of BS)!
I feel like I need a parenting class just for Danielle. She is so different than my other children and I don't know what to do with her. She doesn't care about any of the consequences I have enforced. She missed a B-day party, she has missed play dates, she has sat in time-out for hours (where upon she falls asleep), she has been spanked, things have been taken away from her, things have been given to her siblings for their good behavior, I tell you, this girl is tough to crack. The thing of it is, it's STUPID stuff that gets her into trouble. She doesn't want to brush her hair, she insists on sitting in a certain booster in the car, she won't share, she won't take turns, she won't follow simple directions.
I have been venting to friends all week and luckily they have been there, experienced it, or can at least sympathize with me. The thing of it is, NO ONE has fixed the issues. Will she grow out of it? The question is: Will she survive long enough, to grow out of it?
I feel horrible, I can't believe I am writing this but today, after a 20 minute screaming episode in the car, where I told her, "I am taking you to the police station, you can go to jail with all of the other naughty people." Ellie freaked out more than she did. (Spokane friends, the designated jail is the Yokes that closed on Sprague and Sullivan. So if you have my children in your car and you drive by, go with it, when my children say, "There's the jail." That is where we stop and get out of the car and wait for the child to make a good choice. Is that detrimental? Who is going to pay my kids' therapy fees?)
That's not even what I feel bad about. I told Danielle after she got out of the car and I asked her to go inside and upstairs, she stood there and looked at me, I said, "Go away, you need to stay away from me right now, I am very angry." I don't know how much she understood, but she finally DID listen to me.
My children are now ALL having a rest so hopefully they can go to a friend's tonight for game night. Wish them luck, hopefully they will earn that privilege. Happy day everyone!
Any suggestions on my predicament would be greatly appreciated.....And yes, I know all of you moms out there have issues, if not this one, then some other kind, but I just had to release some of this frustration on my keyboard.
I feel like I need a parenting class just for Danielle. She is so different than my other children and I don't know what to do with her. She doesn't care about any of the consequences I have enforced. She missed a B-day party, she has missed play dates, she has sat in time-out for hours (where upon she falls asleep), she has been spanked, things have been taken away from her, things have been given to her siblings for their good behavior, I tell you, this girl is tough to crack. The thing of it is, it's STUPID stuff that gets her into trouble. She doesn't want to brush her hair, she insists on sitting in a certain booster in the car, she won't share, she won't take turns, she won't follow simple directions.
I have been venting to friends all week and luckily they have been there, experienced it, or can at least sympathize with me. The thing of it is, NO ONE has fixed the issues. Will she grow out of it? The question is: Will she survive long enough, to grow out of it?
I feel horrible, I can't believe I am writing this but today, after a 20 minute screaming episode in the car, where I told her, "I am taking you to the police station, you can go to jail with all of the other naughty people." Ellie freaked out more than she did. (Spokane friends, the designated jail is the Yokes that closed on Sprague and Sullivan. So if you have my children in your car and you drive by, go with it, when my children say, "There's the jail." That is where we stop and get out of the car and wait for the child to make a good choice. Is that detrimental? Who is going to pay my kids' therapy fees?)
That's not even what I feel bad about. I told Danielle after she got out of the car and I asked her to go inside and upstairs, she stood there and looked at me, I said, "Go away, you need to stay away from me right now, I am very angry." I don't know how much she understood, but she finally DID listen to me.
My children are now ALL having a rest so hopefully they can go to a friend's tonight for game night. Wish them luck, hopefully they will earn that privilege. Happy day everyone!
Any suggestions on my predicament would be greatly appreciated.....And yes, I know all of you moms out there have issues, if not this one, then some other kind, but I just had to release some of this frustration on my keyboard.
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